What can a guy do to make his lady happy? If anyone knows the answer, please do tell us clueless men. It seems like nothing that we do makes it ok. Let see a few situations.
1. When a woman is angry or upset, should a man try to pujuk her or leave her alone? When a man try to pujuk, the woman might say just leave her alone and she will be ok later. How long is later? What if a mean decide to leave her alone, would that makes her even more upset cos the guy just don’t care enough to even pujuk. Which one is it?
2. When a woman wants something, does she say it directly and to the point to the man or does she just keeps quiet, gives clues or hints and hope the man understand? If he buys something that she wants, a man might be accuse of not being creative and needed a woman to tell him what she wants. If he buys something that she might not want or he misread the clues and hints that takes the CSI team to solve, he might be accuse of not listening and not understanding what her needs are. Which one is it?
3. When a man goes for his games; football, tennis, badminton, etc; is he expected to bring her or not? If he brings her along, she might be complaining about being bored, her skin is gonna be dark cos of the sun or he smells bad after the game while driving home? If he does not bring her along, she would be suspicious, accusing of another woman is there, accused of forgetting her when he is with his buddies and he does not want her around with his friends. Which one is it?
4. When a woman asked a man opinion on her new shoes or clothes that look hideous and overly expensive, what kind of opinion does she wants? Should he answer honestly and then been accused of not appreciating her initiative to look beautiful for him and a man who seems to be out of style. Or should he lie and tell her what a wonderful choice and ignore the eyes, the giggles and the whisper around them when he brings her out? Which one is it?
5. When a man brings a woman for a date, what does she expect? The usual boring dinner and movie routine, a planned weekend where they both know where they are going, who are they gonna meet or what they are going to do? Or does she expect the guy to be creative, a put more initiative, a bit more spontaneous, go and do what they feel like doing at that particular time? Choose the first one he might be accuse of being boring no fun kind of guy or choose the latter and get accuse maybe of catching her off guard, not ready or she is not wearing the right attire. Which one is it?
6. When a man gives a woman gifts, does the price matter or the thought that counts? If the price of the gift is cheap would she still be happy to accept it because the thought that counts or the price of the gift must be expensive and it doesn’t matter if he suffers a great deal just to get the gift? Which one is it?
7. When on a date, does it matter where a man brings a woman? Does it matter if it is a kedai mamak or at a fancy restaurant? Any place will do as long as they can share their feelings and time together? Or does it have to be a place where she wants to go, where she feels comfortable and surrounded by the things that she love? Which one is it?
I think i just stop here. Advise us clueless and help men........please
8 comments:
dear red raven.. women are very complex creatures. there is no right or wrong answer to whatever question or act posed to them. as a very hormonally charged person, i have to admit that the husband has a tough time understanding me. but his way of dealing with me is trying to do the best that he can to make me happy. well, i'm not picky. the fact that he attempts to make me happy makes me happy and more in love with him. i think i wrote a similar entry on this issue a few months back. feel free to check my blog.
good luck in understanding women creatures as a whole!
Raven,
You dont have to understand us, you just have to love us :-)
dude,
as mentioned above, no clear cut answer on this. it depends on the girl you're with.
i've known girls who were very picky on where they want to eat, what car you drove, how well you dress etc. similarly, i've knows girls who liked me for i was/am.
the key word is adaptabilty. macam bola la.. sometimes 4-4-2, sometimes 4-5-1.. have to adapt to the opposition.
Izreen Fara – Sometimes the best is not enough for some. Very complex creature indeed. I hope have the patient that ur husband have, well, not just me but every men. Will check out the ur blog for that particular issue.
Cosmic_Gurl – But to love women, you have to understand them.
Concreterose – I do agree each men and women are unique and different but I think are more understandable and direct. Women are just not that direct. There is no shortcuts to really know and understand what they want and need.
Desparil – Hahaha…I do agree. It is just that when they change their tactic in the middle of the game that make u loose the match. If u cant change the tactic just as fast, there goes the match or even the season u know
yaa.. that's why we have to be at the top of our game.. be prepared for any eventualities..
btw.. 3-0!! yeaah!!!..
it all depends on ur girl. if she's hip and cool, you're gonna be and do hip and cool stuff with her, v.v
Hmm...Looks like someone is having problem with the girlfriend....
But to be honest, there is no hard and fast rule. It really depends on the personality. I know some guys who kuat merajuk and susah gilaaa nak pujuk. So, tak semestinya most girls are complicated.
Its all about compromise. If you love him/her enough, you'll be willing to sacrifice some things to make him/her happy. Pandai-pandaila jaga hati each other.
Well, thats what I think :)
desparil - Yups...be ready is always a good motto if u r in a r/ship. And yeah...we are on the way up man.....not as impressive as the last 3 matches but a win is a win...
naughtygal - actually, trying to depend on how ur gal is a really really wrong strategy. u have got to be on top of whatever she is thinking...if not...boom boom...ur dead.
trueblue - compromising has laways been a factor but sometimes u just fed up on the compromising part. u just have got to be patient. Sacrifice is good but too much sacrifice is also not good for a r/ship.
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