Prince Charming, Where are Thou?

Romantic and sweet men only exist in movie and romance novels. Not in real life…they don’t exist anymore. They have become extinct just like the dinosaurs and finding one would be a scientific discovery of the millennium. That man should be put in a lab and studied to know the mysteries and wonders of such being. Well, that’s what I can conclude from the comments I got from most of the lady bloggers.



Is it a fact? Is it true? Men now are not a romantic anymore. They don’t know the right thing to say or the right thing to do. They don’t even have a clue how to be romantic. I don’t know if “How to Be a Romantic Man for Dummies” book exist, but if it does I think it will be a best seller for both male and female. It would be a very popular birthday or anniversary for us male I guess. Maybe I might have a few of those copies myself looking at the rate I am going.



But then again, are women now are too blinded by the things they see on TV and movies and also with the books that they read that they have actually raise the bar of a romantic man. I mean the things a man would do for his love for a woman (or a guy even now - Brokeback Mountain anyone?) in the movies and in books are unbelievable. The things they say are just perfect. They can melt an ice even…not just a woman heart. And well… when u have someone who looks like Brad Pitt, Orlando Bloom or Sean Connery doing and saying all those things….can u actually compare that to mere ordinary maybe a bit above average but sometime can look below average after a disastrous hair cut man with an ever increasing belly like me? I don’t think so….



I don’t know if I am a romantic or not. Only one person can rectify that and I guess maybe a few from my past. I have no way to tell and no way to rate myself. If I am to compare myself, a real man with a reel man, I would definitely crash and burn but I am very sure every man will try ever so hard to be romantic with their partners. How they show it, well, each one have their own unique and ermm….weird way of showing it. I don’t know if my pathetic attempts to be romantic with my partners do fall in the ‘weird and embarrassing’ category and I do hope it is not. But does it matter if it is weird or maybe a bit embarrassing? At least we tried right?



So what could be counted as romantic gestures? Hmm…let say giving a woman 99 petal of roses. Would that be considered a romantic gesture or just wasting money? What about hanging a sign professing your love to your partner and walking around in a mall…..would that be a romantic gesture or just plain crazy and embarrassing?



Can this be counted as trying to be a romantic? Making a birthday or anniversary card on your own because you think the cards on sale does not express your real feelings? Willing to miss a football match between United and Liverpool because she wants to watch a movie? Going on a ride although he is afraid of heights? Or just calling her, even after u r married, in the middle of the day just to say how much u miss and love her? Or maybe just the words that come out of our mouth would be enough? Saying that you sleep better with her beside you…ermm…without her thinking ur saying that just to get a little action.





A friend of mine did something really nice for her wife during their 5th wedding anniversary. He promised to bring the wife to Bali but he had to cancel it because of work commitment. To make up for it, he brought his wife to a beach resort hotel in Kuching and covered the room with rose petals. The room cleaners were not happy about the mess but the wife surely like it. Let just say, 9 months after that Baby Arif was born……hehehehe



So, still think that man like this only exist in movies and romance novels? I don’t think so. Man’s wife found one and as confessed by Mommy Feline, she has been with one for the past 6 months. Not all men are jerks and not all women fall for jerks. Just give us a chance and maybe..maybe…that movie or novel romance instinct in us will appear. I hope for my sake…..it does.



Hmmm….where is that Wild Heart (Mills & Boons) novel I was reading?