Friday, February 10, 2006

Prince Charming, Where are Thou?

Romantic and sweet men only exist in movie and romance novels. Not in real life…they don’t exist anymore. They have become extinct just like the dinosaurs and finding one would be a scientific discovery of the millennium. That man should be put in a lab and studied to know the mysteries and wonders of such being. Well, that’s what I can conclude from the comments I got from most of the lady bloggers.



Is it a fact? Is it true? Men now are not a romantic anymore. They don’t know the right thing to say or the right thing to do. They don’t even have a clue how to be romantic. I don’t know if “How to Be a Romantic Man for Dummies” book exist, but if it does I think it will be a best seller for both male and female. It would be a very popular birthday or anniversary for us male I guess. Maybe I might have a few of those copies myself looking at the rate I am going.



But then again, are women now are too blinded by the things they see on TV and movies and also with the books that they read that they have actually raise the bar of a romantic man. I mean the things a man would do for his love for a woman (or a guy even now - Brokeback Mountain anyone?) in the movies and in books are unbelievable. The things they say are just perfect. They can melt an ice even…not just a woman heart. And well… when u have someone who looks like Brad Pitt, Orlando Bloom or Sean Connery doing and saying all those things….can u actually compare that to mere ordinary maybe a bit above average but sometime can look below average after a disastrous hair cut man with an ever increasing belly like me? I don’t think so….



I don’t know if I am a romantic or not. Only one person can rectify that and I guess maybe a few from my past. I have no way to tell and no way to rate myself. If I am to compare myself, a real man with a reel man, I would definitely crash and burn but I am very sure every man will try ever so hard to be romantic with their partners. How they show it, well, each one have their own unique and ermm….weird way of showing it. I don’t know if my pathetic attempts to be romantic with my partners do fall in the ‘weird and embarrassing’ category and I do hope it is not. But does it matter if it is weird or maybe a bit embarrassing? At least we tried right?



So what could be counted as romantic gestures? Hmm…let say giving a woman 99 petal of roses. Would that be considered a romantic gesture or just wasting money? What about hanging a sign professing your love to your partner and walking around in a mall…..would that be a romantic gesture or just plain crazy and embarrassing?



Can this be counted as trying to be a romantic? Making a birthday or anniversary card on your own because you think the cards on sale does not express your real feelings? Willing to miss a football match between United and Liverpool because she wants to watch a movie? Going on a ride although he is afraid of heights? Or just calling her, even after u r married, in the middle of the day just to say how much u miss and love her? Or maybe just the words that come out of our mouth would be enough? Saying that you sleep better with her beside you…ermm…without her thinking ur saying that just to get a little action.





A friend of mine did something really nice for her wife during their 5th wedding anniversary. He promised to bring the wife to Bali but he had to cancel it because of work commitment. To make up for it, he brought his wife to a beach resort hotel in Kuching and covered the room with rose petals. The room cleaners were not happy about the mess but the wife surely like it. Let just say, 9 months after that Baby Arif was born……hehehehe



So, still think that man like this only exist in movies and romance novels? I don’t think so. Man’s wife found one and as confessed by Mommy Feline, she has been with one for the past 6 months. Not all men are jerks and not all women fall for jerks. Just give us a chance and maybe..maybe…that movie or novel romance instinct in us will appear. I hope for my sake…..it does.



Hmmm….where is that Wild Heart (Mills & Boons) novel I was reading?

15 comments:

cpj said...

prince charming? man? romantic? erk.. can't even remember what it's like!! damn! a subject i haven't thought about for a loooooonnng time. pass me the mills & boons book once u done with it will you.

Anonymous said...

Making a birthday card of your own and using words that comes from your heart is truly romantic! The effort makes it special but the thought, is utterly romantic.. ;-)

U're right, romantic man is rare. I'm not saying there isn't any...

HAHAHAHAHA Mills & Boones??? U sure or not....

Anonymous said...

Alah man... belum dapat romantic la... dah jadi bini... hampeh. Most of em la. And note this: not all of them...

ME said...

romantic??? ermm does they exist still heheheheh entahlaaa... they do i guess but they r called don juan or playboy lol...

Freak and Geek said...

dude, whatever things that u did which come sincerely from ur heart (without expecting anything in return) is damn romantic...

So, what did u get ur gf for her b'day eh? NYEH... NYEH... NYEH...

Desparil said...

eh, i thought this is supposed to be a footie blog? what's all this rubbish about love?

chelski kalah.. yeye.. chelski kalah..

p/s- are you sure it's M&B you're reading? not some other mag? like the one with the rabbit logo or something..?

Red Raven said...

Cosmic - so just that little things? No need diamonds and pearls and yang sewaktu denganya..hehehehe

Cikpijah - nak pinjam ye….wait ye….belum habis lagi….it’s coming to the juicy part

Princess – very sure….dont believe meh?

Stellar - hmm….really. kalau jadi bini, man tak romantic ke? Sure or not?

Lynna –hmm…playboy or don juan? Aiyoo…guess man now semua cannot be romantic

F&G – get who for her birthday?

Des – the rabbit logo for after the romantic part men…n mills & boon has hot hot scenes also u know….Rob kisses Marilyn hard while his hands were stroking and caressing her ample breast…hehehehehe

Crash Test Mom said...

u got it right there - 'Willing to miss a football match between United and Liverpool because she wants to watch a movie? Going on a ride although he is afraid of heights? Or just calling her, even after u r married, in the middle of the day just to say how much u miss and love her?'

see, u don't need a book to tell u all that. as for me, flowers are nice but as cliche as it sounds, it's the thought that counts. the action just reinforce the thought, and it doesn't have to be expensive either.

reminds me of a story abt a man who gave her gf 999 roses (or was it 1000) for her bday/v-day whichever. i think that's just a waste of money. baik bawak gi holiday or a spa session ke.

popcornelvis said...

mills and boons?
nak pinjam tak?...my mom punya collection ada bykkkk.

yeah...i agree with cosmicgurl..calling your gf in the middle of the day just to say hi or that you love her...pun dah cukup.
apalah susah sgt?
kedekut credit ke?

Red Raven said...

Des – btw…..wohooo….it may not make any difference but 3-0 dude……

Shopper mom – hmmm…true also. Baik pegi spa kan? bunga banyak2 nak buat apa pun….dah kering nak buat potpourri ke? Heheheheh….

Superdzu - my mom pun banyak giler the mills & boons books….plus my aunties…hehehehe…
Alahai…takde lah kedekut kredit. The gal pun can do that sometimes kan?? not just to check where the boyfrens is je kan?

Cosmic_GurL said...

Waaahhh! Dont la take advantage. Just bcos the girl love lil things abis tu takkan nak bg teddybear McDonalds tu jer kot! Hahahah...Diamond kena bg jugak..sony ericson's walkman handphone tu pun best

Red Raven said...

Cosmic – wah….specific pulak tu…handphone walkman sony ericsson…even I want that gal…

Kaiser – dude… a weekend that I am gonna immortalize in words dude……am actually writing the posting…hahahahaha…a good weekend and hail man of the week, Ronny..4 goals in 2 matches..and that goal…that goal is just amazing. I tot last week free kick was brilliant, but the strike this week is even more out of this world

trueblue said...

There are sweet guys out there la..Its whether we are lucky or not to find one.

Guys don't necessarily have to shower us with gifts to prove that they are romantic. There are so many things you can do. Just be creative la :)Most of the time you dont even have to spend a single cent..

Freak and Geek said...

dude, nyeh.. nyeh... buat2 berlakon lak.. it's ok.. i know, but i won' tell anyone..
u dun-hafta-kill-me.... heheheh..*wink*

ME said...

well red... during courting, marriage and after love quote can be said anytime only if one want to do it. Its all depends on oneself. Sometimes action speaks louder than words....;-)